Transience (Anicca) is the law of the universe. 

Life is constantly changing; according to the law of impermanence, everything is constantly changing, nothing is permanent.
This law teaches us that everything that is created will pass away. Whether it is a connection, a desire, or even an emotional state. 
Suffering comes from clinging to the ephemeral.

We are afraid to start again, and when we look back we don't see how many times we have started again. 
We fear the passing of time, while we do not appreciate the present enough.
Yet impermanence is not our enemy - quite the opposite. The consolation of life lies in this: every change holds the possibility of a new beginning. 
A fresh start is not a defeat, but a milestone that helps us to realise how much we have improved.

What does transience teach us?
Transience teaches silence. 

It helps us to accept the simplicity of life and shows us not to be afraid to start again, because starting again is life. 
Everything that passes away makes room for something new.
It hurts that with the passing of time, moments in our lives are lost and the feelings that once defined us slowly fade.
It hurts when we get stuck in a situation that deprives us of fulfillment.
This dichotomy - the impermanence and the promise of a new beginning - is often a source of fear.
Because starting afresh is not only a freedom, but also a risk, confronting us with the pain of the past and the uncertainty of an unknown future.

We must recognise that we are the only ones who can influence these changes.
The first step is to accept that everything changes, and in that change there is always the possibility of a fresh start.
How can we get started?
Let's start by turning to ourselves with love - accepting our flaws and weaknesses, because only then can we truly grow.
Next, pay attention to our surroundings: be present to those around us and create harmony in our relationships.
Last but not least, let us develop a deep gratitude for our lives as they are - with all the difficulties and the beauties.
Every small step, taken with love and acceptance, brings us closer to wholeness and inner freedom.

A fresh start is never about letting go of material things, but about leaving something you already know well.
Fear of the unknown is natural, but every new start gives room for growth. 

When I decided to leave my ordinary life and travel, it was hard to face the fact that everyone else was staying. 
I let go of the fear that those who stay here will forget me or love me less. 
I let go of the fear of not having a secure income, I let go of the thought that I would not be successful enough. 
I soon met new people and discovered a completely different way of life. 
The new environment brought new opportunities: learning, growth and relationships that enriched my life and filled me with love.

Today I am no longer afraid of change, of ageing or of impermanence. I truly believe that every new beginning brings opportunity - new energy, new lessons, new love.

Today it's all about letting go. It's gone mainstream. 
"Let him go. Move on!" - say the "gurus".

But these words quite often sound empty, without real practice and understanding. Because it is not a one-to-one process, it is a process and it requires commitment. First of all towards myself.
I love myself and am good enough to find myself in the process of change.

According to Buddhism, one of the most valuable skills is letting go.  
What we are able to let go of without attachment actually defines our inner freedom.  
Letting go is not indifference or denial, but a deep understanding and acceptance that leads to inner peace.
We can truly let go when the love that is within us is pure and unconditional. 
Letting go is not simply resignation or detachment, but an active, loving process of accepting the natural change of things without wanting to own or control them.
That love is pure and unconditional is indeed key.
It is this love that allows letting go to be seen not as a painful loss, but as a path to inner peace.
When we love in this way, letting go is no longer about separation, but about a deeper connection - with ourselves, with the flow of life and with the order of the world.

There is a love that transcends all - universal love. 
This is a profound truth that is rooted not only in the teachings of Buddhism, but also in universal human experience.
Love does not expect anything in return, does not possess, and does not demand. 
Pure love is when we give without expecting anything in return. This selflessness liberates not only the other person, but also us.

Today, my love does not expect to be reciprocated, and it does not hurt if the interest is not reciprocated. My breath helps me stay in the present. When I encounter deep emotions, my breath calms me and keeps me in the present moment.
I know that love never goes away - it just transforms. The love that is not returned is returned in other forms: a sincere conversation, a kind smile, a song that touches my soul, a good book that inspires me, or the silence that creates space inside me.

Buddhism teaches that the practice of love is linked to compassion and non-attachment.
When we love, the goal is not to receive recognition or reciprocation, but to give purely and freely. This is true freedom.

The eternal law of love: to give and not to have.

In Buddhism, love is not about wanting to own someone or expecting to be loved. Pure love is not wanting anything. It does not possess, it does not demand. It just exists, touches you and then flows on. 
The circle of life is determined by absolute love. The teaching of giving and letting go teaches us that the love we give always returns - perhaps not from the same place we sent it, but in a different form, in a different place.

My heart becomes heavy when I have to let go of someone I love deeply. 
But I know that our paths do not lead in the same direction. I hug him, wipe away his tears, and accept that the love inside me is no longer connected to him.
A few years ago I would have clung to the illusion that I could save someone, even if they didn't want it. 

Today I know that I don't have to save anyone and I can't. 

I no longer look for emotional peaks or troughs at the heart of my practice. I don't cling to moments of happiness and I don't let pain take me away. I swim quietly among the waves of life - not indifferently, but with inner peace.
When I look back, I see how much I have improved. I hold on to fewer and fewer things, and the love in me becomes clearer and clearer.
I am not afraid of letting go, nor of letting go of what I feel complete in myself now, in the present.
I'm not afraid to start again, and I draw the line at how long I can stay in a moment that is only an illusion.
Time passes, and I am grateful for it - grateful because I look back on the difficult moments and see the red flags on the milestones that have taught and guided me. I love myself and look in the mirror with gratitude to see the features of my mother's beautiful face on my own face.
It reminds me that everything that was and everything that will be lives on in me.

I am not Buddha, and I am not sitting on the throne of enlightenment. I am a human being whose journey is full of learning, mistakes and new beginnings.
My way is to move forward with you, to share experiences that might be useful for you.

We are afraid to start again because we feel we have wasted too much time.
But in the meantime, we let time pass as if it were not passing.
We are painfully attached to love, but pure love asks for nothing, it just exists and flows.
We are always living in the past and feel we don't have enough strength, even though we have always recovered from our weakest moments.
We fear that we will not be successful enough in the future, but we waste time with doubt instead of action.

This is the paradox of impermanence.
The path only opens up when we set out on it, whatever fears we may carry.
Love and acceptance do not come from outside, but are born within us.
Time passes, but every moment is an opportunity to start again - with ourselves, with our world and with our lives.

 

"Silence instead of sound.
But silence instead of what?"

(Tandori: Koan III.)

 

Hari OM TAT SAT
Reni