During therapy sessions, they often sit across from me and say:
"I know what I did was wrong.
I know I should have reacted differently.
I know I made the wrong decision."

Today I have also come to the answer that they don't know, they are just interpreting something of what they have understood on their journey of self-discovery.
Why did I formulate this answer?
Because when the moment of consciousness comes, they can no longer apply the realization they have understood, because it has not become part of consciousness. There is a lack of deep, inner awareness.

This is the kind of consciousness that yoga, Buddhism, Hinduism is based on.

Many people find themselves in a situation in their thirties, still searching for a real, deep human connection, yet often find themselves in relationships that do not move them forward - but rather act as a pull-back. Or they find themselves stuck in a long-mature relationship that is no longer about growing together, but just about living side by side. The need to start a family becomes more pronounced over time, exacerbated by societal expectations and inner urges, but something is holding them back from change.
This inner conflict also affects other areas of life: there is no room for self-fulfilment in the daily routine, lack of inspiration and disinterest in the world of work. The days become a never-ending spiral of obligations, at the end of which you are left feeling drained, stressed and depressed. In this state, there is no awareness or real understanding, only a desire for instant relief: quick meals and superficial sequences provide satisfaction for a while or an hour, only to start all over again the next day in the same way.
These roots are often found in childhood parenting patterns. In times when emotional needs have been pushed to the background because the struggles of everyday life have taken precedence, the child gradually learns that he or she and the needs of his or her inner world are not given attention. This pattern returns as an adult: emotions become secondary to practical tasks, expectations and daily obligations.

The journey is about breaking down our ingrained patterns, shedding the fixed schemas of the mind and freeing ourselves from the emotional attachments that distort our vision.

As we gradually let go of our attachments, the constant inner turmoil that clouds our lives will disappear. The mind becomes quieter, the inner impurities disappear, and thoughts become clearer. In this state, it is no longer only our actions that become conscious, but our whole existence is permeated by a deeper insight. It is then that a pure consciousness appears, which is no longer a reaction or a consequence, but becomes the basic mood of being.

This is the state where inner peace and understanding naturally unfolds, and every action, thought and feeling is in harmony with ourselves and our environment.

Based on my own journey, I also wondered how profoundly true this is.
Many times we fall into the trap of understanding at the level of our intellect what would be the right or wrong thing to do, but without a real inner awareness this understanding cannot permeate our behaviour.
When one realizes that one has "done wrong," one often only reaches the level of interpretation, not the deeper level of awareness where the new realization can be integrated and shape future reactions.
What we are unable to break down because of our patterns, our patterns.

From inner dissatisfaction, from an underestimated self-image, doubts are born in man.
A common theme is loneliness and the lack of a desired soul mate.

The pattern in mate selection is repetitive: usually narcissistic, bipolar individuals are put first and allowed to manipulate themselves over a long period of time.
Why?
Because that's what's exciting, that's what causes us the suffering, the lows and the highs.
And in the period in between, there is a break. It is completely contrary to living a pure, simple life.
Why?
Because there is one eternal rule:
Because "we always need the one who is not."

People often follow relationship patterns that stem from beliefs about themselves and repressed emotional needs.
When someone has an undervalued self-image and struggles with inner insecurities, they often attract - often unconsciously - peers who reinforce these feelings.
Repeated choices are not about happiness, but a kind of habitual suffering in which the soul may find safety, knowing the pattern of pain and disappointment.
Known pain comes with less uncertainty than unknown security.
Loneliness and pain become exciting, because these relationships involve violent emotional ups and downs - lows and highs. These emotional fluctuations add intensity to their lives and often replace an inner wholeness they have not yet discovered within themselves.
In fact, dependence on the other person, attachment and drama are meant to fill this void.

Of course, there is always the perspective, the one who is not exciting, who does not cause lows and highs, but offers a firm, supportive, loving hand.
In fact, he is the one who would trigger the concept of soul mate. But he's scary.
Why?
Because they do not know the essence of what it is to love unconditionally without emotional manipulation.
People confuse the notion of love, of love.
They imagine something that is conditional, and they don't know that the real connection at that level is also unconditional.
Only and only then can it work.

Self-awareness and self-awareness is not about being perfect or making flawless choices, but about becoming more mindful of our own lives and choices in every moment. In all areas of life - whether it's food, work, relationships or how we relate to ourselves - small but consistent steps of awareness lead us towards true wholeness.
When our inner world is more balanced, when we learn to appreciate silence and are able to live in simplicity, we no longer look to others to fill our gaps. It is this inner wholeness that allows our lives to be driven not by feelings of lack and attachment, but by pure, self-identical presence.

Are you lonely?
Want to find your soulmate?
Then realize that never two halves become a whole, but two wholes become a pure, unconditional, pure connection that completes the whole.
It is the connection of two whole people that can create real clarity - one in which there are no conditions, no expectations, just mutual acceptance.
Such a relationship works not because it fills in the "missing part" of the other, but because two whole people can grow and develop side by side.

This kind of unattached, conscious existence shows its value in every moment of life. If we can make ourselves whole, everything we do will be reflected in our relationships, and we will move ever closer to a truly free, unconditional life.

Achieving inner wholeness comes not just from intellectual understanding, but from the deeper awareness that permeates our thoughts, feelings and actions. This path is nothing less than the fulfillment of our relationship with ourselves, and it is this relationship that creates all that we truly need